THE COURAGE TO BE DISLIKED

WHY PEOPLE CAN CHANGE?

• Adlerian psychology tells about to think about the present "goals" rather than the past "causes".
• No incident in the past can determine the way a person can behave in the present.
• it is based on teleology(studying the purpose of given phenomenon rather than cause) rather than etiology (study of causation).

TRAUMA DOES NOT EXIST

• Freuds Psychology says that trauma or psychic wounds cause his or her present unhappiness.
• Adler says no experience in itself is a cause of our success or failure.
• we do not suffer from the chock of our experiences the so called trauma but instead we make out of them whatever suits our purpose.
• we are not determined by our experiences but the meaning we give them is self determining.
• We determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to that past experiences.
• Our Life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself and you are the one who decides how you live.

PEOPLE FABRICATE ANGER

• Anger is an instantaneous emotion
• anger is a tool that can be taken out as needed
• Teleology says - Anger is a means to achieve goal

HOW TO LIVE WITHOUT BEING CONTROLLED BY PAST

• People are not driven by past causes but move toward goals that they set themselves
• meaning that is attributed to past determines the way some ones present will be.

ARE YOU OKAY JUST AS YOU ARE?

• Important thing is not what one is born with but what use one makes of the equipment.
• you have got to focus on what to you can make of your equipment.

UNHAPPINESS IS SOMETHING YOU CHOOSES FOR YOURSELF

• if you feel you are unhappy at this moment you are choosing it, take a step forward and attempt the things or make the changes that will make you happy.

PEOPLE LAWAYS CHOOSE NOT TO CHANGE

• Lifestyle is the tendencies of thought and action in life.
• Your unhappiness cannot be blamed on your past or your environment.
• it isn't that you lack competence.
• you just lack courage
• you are lacking in courage to be happy.

YOU LIFE IS DECIDED HERE NAD NOW

• If we change our lifestyle i.e. the way of giving meaning to the world and ourself then both the way of interacting with the world and behavior's will have to change as well.
• No matter what occurred in life up tot his point, It should have no bearing at all on how you live from now on.
• we living in the here and now are the one that determines our own life.